Grieving Your Beloved

This post, and many before it, are questions and answers from free Intuitive Coaching sessions I offered through this blog. Though I no longer offer free sessions, I do have 30-minute introductory sessions. Please visit, www.cynthiayoder.com


R. writes:
Read this ["A Man and His Stones"] and wanted to ask for ... maybe a stone. My beloved X has killed himself and I'm scared I'm going to just "lay down" and quit all the things that have manifested. I need a place to put this death. This loss.

Dear R.

I’m sorry to hear about your beloved. The horror of what you have experienced must be honored. Do not worry right now about what you have manifested. You will have time to address this later. Honor the very deep grief that you feel. It is the only way “out” to seeing the light of day.

How to do this. Spend time with his family, if you can. Tell stories, laugh and cry with them. Don’t isolate yourself. Find a shoulder to cry on, even if it feels like you are imposing. If ever it was time to impose on your friends, this is the time!

Paint. Find some acrylics and paper and paint out your feelings. This may feel awkward, but this can bring the light of day to your situation sooner. Paint how much you miss him. Paint the glorious times you had together. This will be a picture journal that you will have and can remember him by. Don’t worry about technique. This is your journal. If you tear up an entire tablet out of rage, then that is what you do.

Grief is energy residing in your bones. When you let the energy move through, it is a kind of cleansing. Then you will have energy again for the things in your life that you love.

Please feel free to write again. You are also welcome to call me for an introductory session if you feel led to.

In light and love,
Cynthia